HAPPY NEW YEAR you incredible people!🥳
To start off this post, I should write something you’ve all seen (and probably written) on social media – like “we’re entering a new decade, leave the old behind, entering the new, strip yourself naked, it’s time for change” and all that jazz.
Did most of you have some new years resolutions?
I thought so.
But most of us don’t really hold them up, usually because “oh, I cheated my diet this once” “I smoked that cigarette” or something as such, and so we give up way too soon, because we see no point in continuing since “I broke my promise so I suck anyway”, but in reality it’s just too hard.
And I get it, it’s hard to grow as a person. It’s hard to change. Uncomfortable.
We rather stay destructive and familiar, than new and in healing.
That is because upholding that resolution requires the courage to transform, be born anew, break our patterns.
- Relationships are transformational, and most of us have a bad relationship with transformation.
Read that again.👆🏼
Most of us every so often want to shout out in desperation “Just love me for who I am!”, hiding behind spiritual bypassing saying "we’re all perfect" and don’t need to change, but at the same time we make new-years resolutions because deep down, nobody, not even our parents “love us as we are”. Even your mom wants you to some day (!) become a grownup.
The roots of the problems in relationships is - more often it is NOT that you’re “wrong” for each other (read: incompatible), it’s rather that your past issues dictate your life because you’re unaware, or too scared to let it go.
We hold on to our patterns, habits, ego and pride rather than transform.
Me and my beloved went to hell and back, during this fall.
So many icky things, patterns, deceptions, totally horrifying.
I was submitting to my fears, contributing to the drama.
But finally the light switched on in his head, and he began to really look into himself. Actually contemplating the causes of behaviors, facing his fear of deep conversations, opening up emotionally, diving deep and saying YES to really stepping up as the man he truly is.
Of course there’s still quite a bit to go and trust to build, but things are now evolving so beautifully it almost makes me seasick. And all I can say is... f*ck you, and thank you.
More on that later
So in this New Year, I hope you have the courage to swallow your pride, breathe into the trigger, and realize that you’re meant to grow and evolve, even if you might relapse once or twice.
Oh, and hope you have the courage to book a private session with me - single or couple!
Good luck with your resolutions.
Lots of love <3