Most of us think being present is just being there in the room, like at school when we just raise our hand to show the teacher we're there, and then just go back to daydreaming about what's for lunch.
"I'm here, aren't I!" my partner shouted when I pointed out I don't feel he's being present. Of course, if we don't know what's expected of us, how can we learn different? Or not just what's expected but also - how do we evolve further?
To my partner I respond that it's not just about being here and looking at me, but it's so much more... It's true, he is here always, he stays strong and stays with me as long as possible (until he has to take a breather).
But true presence is about attention being focused on the other person, it's about giving your full awareness and acceptance of the situation, taking in the other person, looking with focus and care, with as much love as possible.
Presence is about listening, hearing without judgements within you, without answering, because if you judge or want to jump in it shows through you body and energy.
True presence is being there with your whole being, from the inside and out, giving the person in front of you as much of you as you can.
Because they feel, even on a subconscious level if you're there or not. But often you yourself who are holding space don't realize that perhaps, you're not really being present. And the other one might not see it either, but then people walk away from a deep conversation feeling still somehow unseen, that something is wrong but they can't quite point to what...
How often are you present with your friend, partner, or yourself?
And how does it feel to be truly seen and heard?
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