*** A D D I C T E D ? ***
I'm not talking about drugs, food, or $ex, I don't mean addiction to games or p0rn, to love or gambling...
I'm talking about the epidemic flooding our society - the addiction to independence.
First, the men, and their "typical nature" to be independent, then the women's rights movement that's still progressing into women trying to be EVERYTHING because they want to be independent (and most burn out), and let's not forget social media (ironic), the pressure to move away from home super early, don't ask outside people for help, don't ask your neighbors for a cup of flour, and more and more... "you're responsible for you"
We are so obsessed and indoctrinated to fend for ourselves, that we forget how much of a social species we are. How much we actually need each other.
Many people get into relationships and they're so afraid to let the other one in and create a new symbiotic life, because they are independent and OHHHH God forbid you start relying on each other in any real way.. That's scary.. And I'm an independent person who can take care of myself.. Right?
We're being told that we have responsibility for our emotions, our wounds, our needs, and nobody can't do it for us, and in a way that's right.
But we're also forgetting that some needs cannot be met without other people helping and us letting them in, but hell, it's soo scary to be vulnerable because I'm so independent... I don't need anything from anyone, WOHOO!
In the end, how much energy are you left with, with this mindset?
Is this protective mechanism serving you, or others around you?
Think about that.